Stressors


All families have problems. But that does not mean that your family is less successful or less desirable when compared to others. Actually, it just means you are normal! Every family has problems and stressors in their lives. What sets some families aside from the rest is how they cope with these many problems and how these stressors affect their relationships with one another.
Stress is not a bad thing. It applies some pressure into our lives and ultimately, helps us to become stronger. But distress is what causes us all pain and it is a reflection of how we usually react to the stressors in our daily lives. Stressors have so many abilities that can help us to become better people. For instance, a big crisis or problem can actually help to bring a family closer together and help their bonds and connections become stronger. I know in my personal family, this was very apparent when I turned five years old. I was diagnosed with type one diabetes. Of course, no one would wish this upon themselves or anyone around them. After all, this is a chronic disease and has ultimately changed my life and made my life so much harder to control and live. But it was able to unite my family in a way that I did not even know was possible. My siblings and I grew so much closer and our love for each other multiplied greatly. My parents learned how to work together much more effectively and how to communicate with not only each other, but to me and my siblings as well. We all helped each other with health and eating right and exercising. My parents watched out for me and what I ate and had a new love for me and understanding of the pain I had to experience daily. My siblings would come over and let me squeeze their hands when I had to get a shot and they would comfort me and try to help me feel better when I was so scared. I will be forever grateful for this major trial in my life and all of the lessons it has taught me and for all of the new and stronger relationships I have now because of it.
Stressors in our lives can also help us to become more humble with our circumstances and help us to see the good in our lives daily. My mother lost a baby girl when she was just a few months away from delivery. This experience greatly humbled her and my dad and gave them a new understanding of what families are and a new appreciation for the children they already had and the children that were yet to come. My mom had 5 kids and loves them all to death. But if it was not for this great loss in my family, she would have never been humble enough or grateful for the rest of what was to come in her life with her kids.
Our stressors can also teach us countless lessons in our lives and how to become better people. I have learned so much from my diabetes, I do not even know where to begin! I have learned patience and empathy and the importance of being grateful for all that you have now. I am so grateful that I have a body that works as well as it does and that I have the opportunity to be in such an amazing family and attend college to pursue my passions. Just because there are a few problems and stressors in my life, it does not mean that I am worth anything less than others or that I am less loved. All it means is that I was blessed with the opportunity to grow and become the person I am today. None of this would have been possible without a few stressors in my life.


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