Parenting


Parenting is so much more than just getting pregnant and having kids. Of course, though, that is one aspect that the job entitles. But in additional to that, there is so much responsibility that comes when raising the children. It is the parent’s divine job to rear their children in love and righteousness and to educate them mentality, physically, and spiritually. These aspects will not only help their children to grow, but they as a family will grow closer to one another and have a home with peace and harmony. Parenting is a central and primary role and one that must be paid attention to over time. Sometimes it can be easier to get into the cycle of teaching, disciplining, and looking for more areas of improvement in your child so you can better help them to improve and progress in this world. While this show good intentions, there is much more thought and effort that must go into raising children and being the most effective parent that you could possibly be.
We must understand first the purpose of being a parent. It is the parent’s job to protect and prepare children to thrive and survive in the world that they will live in. Notice the words thrive and survive. Not only do they need to be successful in the world and be a positive contribution to society, but they also need to be able to survive in the unique world that we live in today. There is so much contention and chaos and problems that surround all of us all day every day and if we do not give our children the foundation, they need so they know how to prosper in the world. They need to know how to withstand temptations and how to hold true to what they know and their standards. If they have this foundation, they will be able to be able to remember who they always are and what they were taught when they were young by their parents. Parents have such a strong influence on their children and an impact on them lasting an eternity. That is why it is so vital we focus on the little things when are children are small, so their roots can be grounded in good soil that will help them to thrive, survive, and grow in the whirl winds we live in today.
My parents were excellent examples of being parents and how they worked together as a team even though they had disagreements and problems throughout their years of marriage. They had rules, standards, and guidelines that were written out in stone from the beginning and they never altered from these. This helped to set a firm foundation in our home so that me and my four younger siblings knew what was expected of us from the beginning and so there would be no confusion when later problems or situations would arise. We had jobs and responsibilities growing up and if we wanted to earn money but were not old enough to actually find a real job, our parents gave us opportunities to work and earn money. Rather than giving us allowance, we were forced to learn the importance of being hardworking and how you can achieve anything your desire if the effort was there. In addition to this we held family council every Sunday night after dinner. At this time, we would discuss any conflict from throughout the week that were not already solved, and they would be resolved right then and there. We also would talk about rules, different agenda items that anyone of us could bring to the table, and about family trips or activities. This was a time that it did not matter your age or gender, everyone’s voice was heard, and we were able to feel a part of the family in the big decisions.
My parents help to show us how to be strict yet loving and including parents to their children. Now I am in no way saying that they were perfect. They had their problems, but they were able to work through them and keep pressing forward. I know that when I have children that if I look at them how my parents looked at me, I will be able to face any challenge with my child and help us both grow in the process.


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